While contemplating the idea of starting a blog, I overlooked that I already have one… I wrote in it once over a year ago, and completely forgot about it. It was during one of my small bouts of insanity, which occur periodically, characterized by my belief in love. Before I figured all of that out by reading my old post, I wondered how to begin my blog. Thankfully WordPress directed me to a site that gives daily prompts: plinky.com. Sometimes I love the prompts it gives me and sometimes I don’t, but I’ve been posting one each day since I found the site. Today, I really enjoyed the prompt and decided to make it my first (I mean second) post on wordpress. From now on, I want to post separately unless I have absolutely no idea what to write about. I plan on writing here regularly, and hopefully finding many blogs that interest me and stalking them! If you want to check out my daily prompts just sign up for a plinky account (it’s fun!) and look for Yellsmoody-because I often am.
Today Plinky asked:
Do you believe in luck?
How do you think it relates to destiny and coincidence?
I answered:
What we tell the kids to blame.
I tend to dislike that term, luck. I’m not a complete hypocrite, I will admit, I used it when I believed in it. That foolish belief made me lazy, made me think I couldn’t make anything better of the terrible mess I considered my life. Luck undermines the hard work and perseverance it takes for people to get closer and eventually realize their goals. Wouldn’t you be offended if after you’ve exerted so much effort to accomplish a goal, someone tells you that you got lucky?
I believe that children are really the only ones with reason to believe in luck. Children’s luck is based on circumstance, they have very little control over the quality of their own lives, and are forced to rely on their parents. We must also keep in mind that children believe in santa clause, fairy tales, and whatever other lies adults concoct for them.
For example, if a little girl has an alcoholic father, this can have a profoundly negative effect on her quality of life. Her father’s disease translates into a less than optimal life at home, one filled with stress. Her father will start drinking as soon as he gets home for work (but that seems normal to the girl), except that he gets angry and argues with her mom regularly. Alcoholics also tend to get violent, their hangovers cause them to miss work often and lose their jobs. If her father’s the primary source of income, the family is likely to get evicted. The unfavorable circumstances caused by the dad’s disease are perceived as the child to be the manifestation of bad luck. This isn’t so farfetched though, as the child has no control over her father’s alcoholism.
As we get older though, most of us make a distinction between circumstances and luck. Mostly due to our ability to exert greater control over our own lives. We are not children limited to the opportunities that our parents provide or fail to provide. The older and more independent of others that we become, the more control over our destinies we have. We can rid ourselves of the negative influences in our lives. Sometimes even though it may seem we are so insignificant and bad things keep happening, the way we deal with our experiences is what truly matters. The way in which we react to life’s challenges and opportunities depends on us, not something silly like luck.